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Before I share my top three reasons why ladies should stop looking for a husband let me tell you what I am not saying.
I am not saying that women who desire to have a purposeful relationship that leads to marriage should waste their time and energy in relationships with men who aren’t husband material and aren’t truly ready to settle down any time soon. I am mostly referring to women who feel that it is their job to actively find a husband.
If this is you, consider these three reasons why I say you don’t have to.
- It is not your job to find a husband. “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”Proverbs 18:22
In this go after what you want type society it is easy for Christian women to get caught up in this and begin to think that if they don’t do anything to actively seek out a husband they will never find one. This is a lie. In fact, God wants you to be anxious for nothing (Phillipians 4:6). He knows the desires of your heart and the best way to bring whatever they are to pass in your life.
Are you familiar with the biblical story of Abram and Sarai? It’s a great read for anyone waiting for God’s promises to be fulfilled in their life.
Here is a short synopsis of their story: Sarai took matters into her own hands when the wait for a child, one that God promised her and husband Abram, was taking too long. To help God out, since she was barren, she asked her maidservant Hagar to sleep with her husband. After Hagar conceived and began to show, Sarai began to despise and mistreat her so much that Hagar couldn’t handle it anymore and she ran away. The angel of the Lord comforted Hagar and convinced her to go back home where she eventually gave birth to a son: Ishmael. When the time came for God’s promise to be fulfilled in Abram’s life, Sarai conceived in her old age and gave birth to the promised child Isaac. However, as a result of Sarai’s impatience, the descendants of Ishmael and Isaac are constantly at war to this day. ( The Children of Israel and the Arab nation.)
What we can learn from this story, if God promises you something no matter how long it takes it will come to pass in due time.
- Women who search for a husband are more disappointed than women who don’t.
Women who are used to getting what they want after “putting in the hard work” can become extremely disappointed when they apply this same work ethic to finding a mate. They figure, all they need to do is hire a dating coach, create an amazing on-line profile, put in the hours needed to search for a possible mate, go on a few dates and voila…off to the chapel they go. NOT! Instead, many find out that finding true love isn’t as easy as they thought it would be and end up sharing their disappointment with friends who aren’t trying as hard to find a husband. If this sounds like you, I am so glad that you’re reading this blog. You see, all that time and energy you are using to find a husband you could actually be using it to build the most important relationship of all: the one you can have with your heavenly Father. He longs to hear you call His name.
- God wants to write your love story.
Do you believe that God is capable of bringing you into the path of your future mate? If He can do this for Robert and I, I know that He can do the same for you. Instead of focusing on how He’s going to do it focus on being a “good thing.”:)
If you decide to put a profile of yourself on-line, just leave it there. Don’t let it consume your life. If you are to be found this way it’ll happen and if you aren’t you will be found another way.
Don’t get weary in well doing, keep the faith! God is not slack concerning His promises. (2 Peter 3:9)