Are you believing the lies and myths out there about being single? Telling yourself lies about your single status?
Well it’s time that you silence those voices once and for all by knowing the truth!
MYTHS & FACTS ABOUT BEING SINGLE
Myth: God’s best is marriage, singleness is second best.
Fact: The Bible does not teach that marriage is a higher calling than singleness. In fact, the single person can be more devoted to God than a married person. See 1 Corinthians 7:34.
Myth: I am divorced. All I need is to be married so I can be fulfilled again.
Fact: Gurl, Guy, God has given us everything we need in Him to be fulfilled. See 2 Peter 1:3
Myth: Happiness is dependent upon being in a relationship
Fact: “The Joy of the Lord is your strength.” Nehemiah 8:10. John 15:10-11. Ecclesiastes 2:26
Myth: I am single, therefore I am forgotten..
Fact: It may feel like this at times but the truth is “The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:8.
Myth: Since I am not married, I am not whole
Fact: Reminder: Single means to be separate, unique and whole. Therefore nothing missing. All good gifts come from above.(James 1:17) Wait patiently for your good gift. God has the right time to present it to you.
Myth: If I am single who will make me feel important
Fact: Before you even came to planet earth God knew you. You were ever formed in your mother’s womb. Jeremiah 1:5. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Matthew 10:30
Myth: Because I am single I cannot make it emotionally or financially on my own
Fact: There are many singles making it WHY? because they are not alone. “God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus”. Philippians 4:19. “I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread. Psalm 37:25
Myth: My singleness means I am not worthy of love…Who said?? This thought does not come from the one who called you.
Fact: “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son” John 3:16 read also Romans 5:8.
Myth: When I get married I won’t be lonely
Fact: Marriage will not solve loneliness. There are wives/husbands who still feel lonely in marriage. “God has set the lonely in families.” Psalm 68:6. As a Christian you are a part of the family of God and there is your birth family.
Myth: I have to be perfect to be ready for marriage
Fact: There is a level of preparedness required to handle a relationship/marriage but this does not mean perfection. Everyday God is perfecting everything that concerns us and know that Jesus is the only one who is perfect.
Myth: I am not complete because no one sees/notices me
Fact: Maybe that guy was too shy to come over and speak to you? Or maybe he/she is checking you out at a distance and being prayerful about you?? We really don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes so we should be careful to draw conclusions. Besides, God notices you. He knows when you sit and when you stand. See Psalm 139:2. “For He knows the way that I take.” Job 23:10:
Myth: If I am not married. I won’t become all that I should become.
Fact: “Whatsoever a man think so is he Proverbs 23:7 Don’t shoot yourself in the foot. Instead meditate upon fruitful thoughts like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13 and “For I know the plans I have for you” Jeremiah 29:11
Myth: Widows are incomplete and unfulfilled
Fact: Anna was a prophetess and widow. Her husband died after being married to her for seven years. She was fulfilled in God. She never left the temple; she served night and day with fasting and prayer. See Luke 2:36-37
Myth: I must be single because something is wrong with me
Fact: We are all imperfect beings. Some singles may be single by choice; they just haven’t met their match. Some because they’re not ready for a relationship due to issues they’re working out. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
Conclusion:
We need one another. We need companionship and relationships – whether single or married.
God accepts and respects singleness. Nothing in the Bible indicates that a person who chooses not to marry has any less worth than a person who marries.
Singleness has advantages for the person who wants to give his or her life to God’s service.
God gives wonderful gifts. One of them is the ability and choice to be single for many years or for a lifetime.
God is all-sufficient. His sufficiency sustains the adult single. It’s okay to want to be married, but it’s far more important, single or married, to get their ultimate fulfillment in their relationship with Christ and walk in obedience to Him.